love this

"THERE’S SOMETHING VERY ADDICTIVE ABOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. IT’S A THOUGHT PATTERN AND A HABIT THAT FEELS REALLY, REALLY GOOD UNTIL IT BECOMES DESPERATE. IT’S ONE OF THE REASONS [MY] RELATIONSHIP ENDED. I WASN’T ABLE TO GROW OR FOSTER ANYTHING. I THINK A LOT OF GIRLS HAVE THAT STORY. IT’S A BIG MOMENT WHEN YOU STEP AWAY FROM THAT AND SAY, ‘I’M GOING TO BE EXACTLY WHO I AM. AND I’M GOING TO BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO ONLY BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WANTS ME THE WAY I AM.’"